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Forum Topics > Regions Policies > SRVP of Regions Cheats on Wife w/ Another Employee
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| Regions Wife |
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| I am the wife of a man who currently works for Regions Bank- a Senior Vice President of the Company. I learned about 6 months ago that my "husband" was having an inappropriate relationship with a Vice President of Regions Bank. I had pulled up a bill from our cell phones to locate a phone number for our son. When scanning through the statement I noticed that my "husband" was not only texting and calling, but receiving hundreds of text messages and phone calls, seven days a week, from the crack of dawn, all day and throughout the night, from the same phone number. I think my heart actually stopped for a minute; I was sick to my stomach. I then pulled the cell phone statements for a a period of a few months and found 1837 text messages and phone calls- 10 to 15 times a day, every day- 7 days a week, to and from this same phone number. At the relentless prompting of my son, I called the cell phone number and got the voice mail of a woman who identified herself, by her first name. After hearing that, my son, who was beside me at the time, immediately ran through the house, into my bedroom where my "husband" was sleeping, pulled him out of bed (out of a sound sleep)and started punching him as hard as he could, repeatedly asking my "husband" how he could do this to me. It was everything I could do to pull my son off of him (he's 6 feet, 4 inches tall and very strong). My son then grabbed my "husband's" cell phone from the night stand and called the woman from the cell phone. She answered right away -my son then asked her (in front of his father), why she was calling his father to which she responded, if my son called her again, she would "get a restraining order against him" and then, she hung up.
Side note: There were other signs of my "husband's" infidelity in recent months as my "husband" was frequenting singles websites and porn websites on our home computer and signs in prior years, as well- a piece of a broken acrylic nail (clearly from a woman) in his luggage, just after returning home from a business trip + I found a book my "husband" had hidden- "Meeting Your Soul Mate through the Stars" plus hidden bottles of Viagra. I never could get any answers out of him then, either- both times, I foolishly, let it go.
When things calmed down that night, I confronted my "husband" about the calls and text messages, he told me he had no idea who or what I was talking about. When pressed, he changed his story telling me it was someone he worked with- then he said it was someone he used to work with and finally he said it was just someone he knew and he was trying to help her get a job- (all in the same conversation).
I begged him for days to tell me the truth and own what he had done, yet he refused. He actually became angry and told me it was "none of my business" and that I was "invading his privacy". He would not tell me anything and he was not the least bit sorry or remorseful for the pain and hurt he was causing me or our children. His only concern was for this woman- he told me not to call her or he and/or the other woman, would get a restraining order against me and/or have me arrested. He told me if I mentioned this to anyone at his work he would tell them he was in a "dysfunctional marriage" so no one would believe it. Further, he threatened to cause trouble for me at my work, so I would get fired. I was desperate for answers so I resorted to calling the phone number back. This time a woman answered. I introduced myself as his wife and simply asked her if she could tell me why she was texting and calling my "husband" 10-15 times a day, 7 days a week,at all hours of the day and night to which she arrogantly replied, she has had a relationship with my "husband" for years and she knew all about me as my "husband" has talked crap about me, many times. She then told me to ask my "husband" to tell me what was going on and hung up- but not before telling me, if I called her again, she would get a restraining order against me. (I've since found out that, not only has my "husband" known her for years but he actually helped her get the job, at Regions Bank).
The next night, I came home from work and my "husband" was in bed. I tried yet once again, to speak with him. I told him I was completely broken, that it was everything I could do to get through each day and that by him refusing to own what he had done or provide me any answers, coupled with the fact that he was choosing to continue this relationship with this woman (knowing how much pain he has already caused me, and his children), was killing me. I told him how I could not believe after all these years that he could think he owes me (and our kids) so... little that rather than try to make things right he was choosing to play the victim, in all of this and continue to carry on with this woman. I also told him that he was making me feel like the most insignificant thing to him- like a chewed up piece of gum stuck to the bottom of his shoe- a mere inconvenience to him- and that I could not understand how, after everything I have done for him and our family, his family and his career and after everything I have given to him, our children, his family, his career, etc. for all these years, that I could mean so... little to him that I am not even worth a breath (because he was refusing to even speak to me (other then to threaten me) since I initially confronted him about the "relationship".
My "husband" got within 2 inches of my face (face-to-face) and responded by telling me "I was out of my mind" and simultaneously shouldered me off the side of the bed, knocking me to the floor. In retaliation, I pulled his hair and scratched him. He pushed me, shoved me and knocked me to the ground. Knowing how materialistic he is, I grabbed a lighter and flicked it once and told him I wanted to take his suits, custom shirts, etc., out to the back yard, make a big pile and burn them because he pays more attention to, and takes better care of, his "things"- than he does his family. His personal belongings are the only things that ever seem to matter to him (ie. his car, his Armani suits, his expensive watches, his $500 shoes, his custom shirts, his hair, his fake teeth, etc.- I have never once did anything to his belongings, nor would I ever do anything). He then left the house- telling me I "better not do anything to his stuff- or I would be sorry". I was so hurt and angry I called the town locksmith to come and change the locks on the house. A short time later, the locksmith arrived and as he was changing the lock on the front door, three cops walked in (at the time, my daughter and I were sitting on the sofa in our pajamas, watching a show). They said, my "husband" was outside and they wanted to know what had happened. I looked out the front door and saw my "husband" standing next to his car in the street and told the cops to have him come in so we could tell them together, what happened and they said, no, that he was staying outside. They immediately separated me and my daughter and escorted us into different rooms in the house. As they were doing so, I told my daughter not to say anything- not to give a statement as I did not want to get my "husband" in any trouble as he needed his job (my daughter had witnessed the whole thing between my "husband" and myself). The cops started asking me questions and I told them I was not going to answer any questions or provide any statement (as I had heard from others in the past, that you should never give a statement to a cop when he asks you questions). The next thing I know, one of the cops made me step outside in my pajamas, with no shoes. He turned me around- grabbing me tightly, hand cuffed me, arrested me and took me to jail in the back of his car- all while my "husband" stood in the street watching, with his arms crossed and nothing but a look of tremendous satisfaction and pride across his face, for what he had done to me- all, while my kids were crying and begging my "husband" and the cop's-not to do this. My "husband" then packed up his belongings/prized possessions and left the house, leaving our children home alone in complete devastation with no transportation, no money and no food- and he never looked back.
Prior to leaving the house, my "husband" ripped the computer cords out of the wall so I couldn't use the computer. He unplugged the phones and almost immediately had them permanently disconnected (all, in an effort to limit my communication with others). He took the license plate and registration from my car so I couldn't drive it, and the list goes on. Additionally, when he left, he took everything we had and put it in his name leaving me with nothing- not a credit card; not a dollar; not even a penny.
Despite all the despicable things my "husband" has done to me and his children, he continues to go out of his way to be spiteful, vindictive and cruel and he believes everything is his and nothing is mine. He is holding me hostage and continuing to try to control me- all while refusing to communicate with me or his children. He wouldn't even let his children know where he was staying. He changed his cell phone number so we couldn't call him. He made arrangements at work to have our calls intercepted so we can't get through to him. He blocked us from emailing him and he told our children if they went to his office he would call security and have them taken away and possibly arrested. Rather than communicate for himself, my "husband" has chosen to put his co-workers in the position of having to communicate and conduct his business for him because he wants to prove to me he owes me nothing and he knows how much pain he is causing me by not speaking to me (he has always been one who prides himself in rubbing salt in the wound).
My "husband" has neglected to pay the bills (rent, utilities, car insurance, car payments, storage, etc.). I have received eviction notices on our door and our power, water, cable, Internet, etc. have been turned off multiple times due to non-payment. Our storage is in the process of being auctioned off. Why- because he refuses to pay anything that is in my name- all in an effort to ruin my credit. He chose not to pay some toll tickets that he committed to taking care of, which has resulted in my license being suspended and thousands of dollars in fines, which I do not have because he has taken everything we have and have owned for the last 26 years, from me. Additionally, my husband refuses to pay for college, transportaion, insurance, expenses for our kids and as a result they have been virtually held hostage in our house 24 hours a day/7 days a week- unable to even get a job because they don't have any transportation. Unfortunately, my "husband" is forcing our children to act as a collection agency as it is not until they leave endless messages for him at his work (with no return phone calls) that they resort to sharing information regarding the delinquent bills/financial obligations with his co-workers. Then and only then, he is shamed into breaking down and paying the bills. Further, my "husband" sent a letter to our Realtor informing her we were moving out of the home we are currently renting. It was not until I received a letter on my front door pertaining to the move-out that I knew he had done that. Ne never even had the decency to inform me that he had done that. He also filed the taxes for 2008 as "single", claiming both our children and took credit for all the deductions- and he didn't have the decency to tell me that, either! Recently, he had his name removed from all the utility bills for our house and he is refusing to pay them because as he told my daughter, "he does not use the services and they are not in his name- adding, they are my problem." Further, when attempting to resolve the fact that I never filed my taxes for 2008, thinking that my "husband" did (as he as done for 25 years) I found out he neglected to file my taxes for 2007, as well- just one more thing he chose not to inform me of. My "husband" has gotten himself a, fully furnished, condo with a big screen TV on the top floor of a brand new high-rise in a downtown metropolis city(approximately $2000 a month with utilities) and he is in the process of buying himself a brand new car to go with it- all while trying to put us out on the street and sending me blocked text messages telling me I need to move into one of those cheap weekly motels or have someone take me in.
This is a man whom I have stood by for 26 years- I raised his children (virtually by myself) so he could focus on his career. He never had to worry about a thing at home- all he ever had to do was show up. I took care of our home, our pets, our families, every birthday, holiday, vacation, move, etc. and the list goes on. He (and his job) always came first. I stood by him when he was sick and ended up in intensive care in the hospital for 2 weeks (substance abuse- he was actually "baker acted") and I took care of him until he was back on his feet, again. I kept him from being admitted to a psych ward and from being sent to rehab- all in an effort to protect his privacy/his career and I quietly suffered the constant abuse and stress (for 5+ years) that comes with living with one who is aways "under the influence of drugs"- and I kept his "secret"- I told no one- not even my family. I supported him when he was terminated from not one, but two jobs. I moved from rental to rental, to the tune of 20 times in the last 26 years, due to my "husband's indiscretions and I went back to work (at a time in my life when I should be enjoying life to the fullest) due to financial hardship resulting from his indiscretions. There is nothing I didn't/wouldn't do for him, his parents, brothers, nieces, nephews, etc.. I have never-ever been in trouble in all the years of my life- for anything! I have always put my "husband" (+ his career) and my children first, no matter what! My "husband" and my children were all that ever mattered to me. I got my children through the first 20 years of life without even a cavity and I supported my "husband" 100%/unconditionally and never ever said a bad word about him to anyone (not even my family). My "husband" (Senior Vice President of Regions Bank)has not only destroyed our marriage and our family but he has done and continued to do despicable, unforgivable things. I will never forgive him for what he did to me that night as he robbed me of my dignity and my identity- something I can never get back. He has left me completely broken and finsncially destitute. I've gone from being a star at work to being on the verge of getting terminated because I have lost my focus- can barly get through each day let alone accomplish anything and I will never forgive him for what he has done to our children.
Since all this has transpired, my daughter has been so... distraught she became suicideal. I've had police show up at my front door multiple times (as her friends have called the police, concerned for her life). Additionally, my daughter resorted to abusing pills to mask her pain, and ended up getting arrested. She got into a car accident in which her car was totaled and since my "husband" neglected to pay our car insurance (despite the fact he received a phone call that night from the hospital, letting him know if he had not paid the car insurance, that he needed to pay it as his daughter a was in a car accident and there was damage to the car/his daughter was hospitalized)we had no coverage. Not only did he neglect to pay the insurance but he didn't even bother to call his daughter to see if she was dead or alive. He waited a good 6 weeks to reinstate our insurance and once the insurance was reinstated he waited 5 weeks to report the accident (lying about the date of the accident- not the fist time he committed insurance fraud) so it would be covered. Then and only then, he atempted to contact his daughter by texting her a nasty message expressing his concern and anger about the car and telling her what a loser she was. Similtaneously, my son has been in trouble with the law as well and he got his girlfriend pregnant. My "husband" has also defruded Regions Bank- that's another story!
I have taken it upon myself to research how I may proceed in divorce proceedings as my "husband" has left me destitute/penniless. And a such, since he has left me with no financial means, I have made numerous attempts to get my "husband" to do the right thing and fill out a financial affidavit so we can divide everything fairly (give me what is due me) and move forward with an uncontested divorce (filing fees are only $400) yet, he refuses to cooperate- he tells me I'm out of my mind; he will decide how much he will pay for my expenses- he will be in charge.
At this point, it is everything I can do to keep myself from sharing this with my "husbnd's" boss and "the other woman's" boss. There is nothing I'd like more than to see both of them lose their jobs for all the pain and hurt they have caused me and my children however, my hands are tied as I need alamony to survive'exist- one day at a time!
"MORAL" OF THE STORY: With people like my "husband" and his "girlfriend" working for Regions Bank, what do you expect?
Regions Wife
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| mac |
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| I am so sorry for your suffering, however, it sounds to me that you should have left many many years ago. I would suggest you seek counseling for abused women, apply for temporary support, attempt to regroup and then go to war! I was an employee for Regions for 11 years and regret wasting the last 1 year there ( the previous 4 were heaven until the Amsouth merger and a manager from hell).
My point is as much as I dislike Regions even I'm not sure this can be blamed on them. |
| Freedom |
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| Oh my gosh. You have no idea how much your story has deeply affected me. I've had that gut wrenching feeling before where you feel like your heart has stopped when you "discover" your spouse's infedelity. I know that you feel like you have to agree to his demands and what he is willing to give you but you need to STAND UP! There is no way in hell that you need to bow down to him. I know that you are lost and are suffering both emotionally and financially but you need to talk to a lawyer...PRONTO! Your husband is not a man. He is a low-life snake that deserves to lose everything. What decent man could cut off his children? A good lawyer would take your case. Trust me! Please don't give up. You have got to contact someone. |
| Regions Wife |
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| Thank you for your kind words. I know it's not Regions Bank's fault. My point is, when you have indiviuals working for you who are without any moral conscience and lack integrity, honesty, etc., they ussually do not make very ethical business people. As they say, the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. If an employee is dishonest, having an inappropriate relationship with another officer of the comapany (and by the way,it is still gong strong)and he is willing to scam the company who pays him, then what will he do to his clients/customers? Regions Wife |
| Regions Wife |
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| Thank you so... much for your kind words. You have no idea how much it means to me. As I have said to him a hundred times, it's one thng to treat me this way, but it is inhumane for a "father" to treat his children this way. I just can't undersand how he could want so... little for his kids. I would give my life for my kids (in a heartbeat), without even batting an eye- no matter what- and I would have for him, too- without quetion. I can't let it go because I keep searching for answers/seeking to understand- my friend tells me I will never be abe to understand because the way he thinks is not normal. I just feel I need answers to move forward.
Thanks, again!
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| Your Husband's Peer |
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| I am a Senior Vice President for Regions Bank (I am also, male) and I have to be honest, your husband is a loser and his "counter-part" is the next best thing to a prostitute! Unfortunately, the screening process for hiring individuals is often tainted by today's politics in business. Although Regions Bank makes every effort to pre-screen and verify pertinent information relevant to the creditability, experience and integrity of a candidate, it is inevitable at times, that an individual may fall through the cracks primarily because 1) they put on a good "show" and 2) they have co-workers/"friends" act as references thus validating the "show" and 3) they have "lover's" who refer them. My wife and I are sincerely sorry for all that you have endured as we have seen firsthand, other Corporate wives, just like yourself, who have put their husbands and their husband's careers first and ended up in similar positions. It's amazing what a huge ego and a lack of conscience can do! |
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| I too work for Region's and I too know of a story very similar. The worst thing is most of the employees of this "cheater" know and are scared to say anything due to fear of reprocutions because they know HR will do nothing. This case is a CSM with another CSM in a close by area. They were even seen together at a meeting acting in a non-business way by managers attending. This man has been nothing but an HR nightmare for years and somehow he always gets away with things most would be fired for. I am an employee and I know that some of our managers and a lot of us others have discused going in together, but no one agrees it will do any good. If a person is getting decent numbers, no matter why, they are untouchable. |
| Regions Wife |
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| If anyone would like to know the identity of this "man", or the other "woman", please let me know by responding to this posting. To date, my "husband" is STILL holding me HOSTAGE and he has taken everything he posibly could from me and my children. When I think there is nothing more he can do to us, he does something else. This past week, he had his attorney send notice that he was going to repossess my car- yes, that's right... leave me with no transportation. Do you know another human being on the face of the earth that could be so... selfish, vindictive and cruel? Way to go with your hiring standards, Regions Bank!!! |
| Dan Edouards |
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| I am an ex-employee of 15 years. During the last conversion in late 2008, my VP (from Birmingham) and other visiting support staff celebrated at Larry Flynn's sex club. The VP and his sidekick took prostitues back to their hotel. Both are married. |
| soundslikemyoldboss |
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| I thought it sounded likd my old boss in Orlando. Wow! I wouldn't be surprised. He was a piece of work. Very sneaky and manipulative. I thought he was trying to come on to me a few times but I did not respond to him. I don't mess around with married men. Probably got fired because I frustrated him with my presence. Wasn't any other good reason. He lied and told unemployment office that I quit without notice. I am sorry for your pain. |
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| Can you tell me what division he worked in and how long ago this was? What was his name? |
| fedup |
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| hiring policies or not, if a person can hit their DFW goal, Regions thinks they're gold. The fact is many people have affairs at work. Take Martin Schrodt in Chattanooga TN fo rexample. He is a CSM (Sr VP) having an affair with another CSM while parading his wife around at company functions while everone knows what is goingon because he's too stupid to hide it properly. Good thing for him he hit his goal last month so it's all good. |
| who cares |
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| Tell me your general region and I'll tell you. I want to help you if you want help. Trust me.
Person who knows too much for her own good. |
| Pegasus |
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| I would like to know the names. |
| Region's Wife |
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| Why? |
| Similar life |
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| Wow, we share a similar story. My ex wife starting sleeping with an auditor Where she worked (Healthsouth). She divorced me and married him and I continue to get screwed because Family Courts in Alabama are geared toward the mom when it comes to kids.
She eventually left Healthsouth as I think the rumors going around about her were too much. |
| Sorry |
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| Sorry for what you are going throught...but it is time to get a great lawyer and move on!!!! |
| CHECK THIS OUT! |
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| Does anyone know who this guy is? I heard he's in Orlando, the downtown office on Orange and his name is Patrick. My friend works with him, they don't say anything about him or report him to his boss or HR because they don't think the "higher up's to be" care. My friend also says they all hate this guy but they pretend to be on his side until they can get enough on him to get him fired and make sure he never works again. My friend says they have all heard him on the phone threatening his kids, cussing them out and hanging up on them. And they only call because he has their power, water and phones turned off all the time. My friend also heard him on the phone many, many times trying to get them thrown out of their home until they were homeless. Then, he was HAPPY! Accordng to the website about him, he got his wish and left his family homeless and poor. The website also proves that he has a drug problem, yes it's true, he was baker acted and he did alot of illegal things which he is being inveestigated for and he has always had "erectile dysfunction for which he takes ALOT of VIAGRA for, but his kids say that's not his problem, they are convinced he is a closet gay because his best friends in highschool were gay and he keeps rekindling the flame with one of them plus he has a BIG "gay" "fobia". The website also shows a true "resume" for him including letters from other banks he worked at proving he was fired. Oh yeah, his girlfriend Lynn was fired from Suntrust Bank and he jumped in and saved the day and got her a job at Regions. It also shows his girlfriend's threats to his family. My friend says he's ALWAYS going to the doctor's and he hardly ever works a full day- he says he's out on "appointments". My friend says they all feel terrible about whet he has done to his family and how he has cheated Regions Bank and they can not believe that he continues to get away with it. Check out the website about him. It's FASCINATING! |
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| what is the website? |
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